1. BE REALISTIC : Know the limitations of your child and be thankful for their unique set of abilities-mental and physical.

2. BE A POSITIVE MOTIVATOR : Don't motivate negatively.  Don't offer excuses for shortcomings or make unfavorable comparisons with others. And don't live your own life vicariously through your child.

3. NEVER PUT DOWN OR KNOCK YOUR CHILD'S COACHING STAFF : Even though you may disagree with some minor points, give positive support to the coach's rules, strategies, and philosophy.

4. NOT BE OVERCOME BY ENVY TOWARD OTHER PLAYERS AND/OR PARENTS : Respect other players and parents in spite of shortcomings or mannerisms that may irritate you.  Envy and ill will can destroy a team and hurt other players and parents.

5. NOT BE A KNOW IT ALL :  Coaches are human. They make mistakes. But don't continually second guess them. You'll just hurt the team, and put undue pressure on your child.

6. EMPHASIZE TOTAL COMMITMENT (BODY AND SOUL) TO A PROGRAM :  Teach and stress discipline, attitude, respect, loyalty, and team work traits that last a lifetime and determine relative success or failure.

7. NEVER SACRIFICE ACADEMICS FOR ATHLETICS : Insist on good study habits and good academic performance.  Brains will carry your child farther then their legs.

8. MONITOR YOUR CHILD'S SOCIAL ACTIVITIES: Help and encourage your child to choose friends carefully, and to make the right choices in an out of school.

9. BE SELFISH BUT BE A GOOD ROLE MODEL: Do not encourage participation for the wrong reasons such as awards or scholarships. Encourage love of the game and support what ever role your child is assigned.  

10. ENCOURAGE DECISION MAKING AND DEVELOPING LEADERSHIP : This can be developed, it has to do with self esteem, grades, values, and respect for others, including competitors, and can come as a result of following the first 9 commandments.